The unconditional love that you are is beyond relative love. The dreaming "I" that we used to believe was limited to the body is just incapable of genuine love and this will always be so.
Dreaming "I" (ego) is a mental idea; only a word that is expressed in time. When you mis-identify with the word as your identity, you are making an object out of yourself. The true Self and dreaming "I." There simply are not two. Write the word "I" down on a piece of paper. Then look at it. Are you that word? Or is there something deeper here?
For a moment, just say the word "I." Yes, right now. Are you aware of the thought? How deep can a mere thought be? You are not the "I" that you are presently equating to your body. You are the Awareness of the word "I." You are the Awareness of the body. That Awareness is not personal.
We are not referring here to eyesight. It is just beyond eyesight. Are you aware of the eye? Are you aware of seeing? For enlightenment, the only essential question is WHO is aware? If it is not "me" then who is aware?
Close you eyes for a moment. Are you still aware?
The dreaming "I" that is the body exists only within the mental realm and its time. Since it is in time, it is then subject to duality; the law of the opposites. This means that when you experience relative love, it can only remain "in love" for a certain duration.
Time is always in movement. Relative love is unstable and will inevitably cycle to hate. Hate is equally unstable. Because it is traveling in time, it will inevitably cycle back to relative love.
There is a continuum between relative love/hate. The less we hate, the more we feel loving. The less loving we feel, the more likely feelings of hate will arise. Love/hate are polar opposites that require on another. The cycling requires time.
As the ego, we then thank people, because we feel loving and then blame them whenever we feel hate. Not so intelligent in either case. It is "your" responsibility. Where are you looking from? The Heart or "I?"
We have all been in relationships and everything is going along just fine and suddenly the pain body rears its heads within either one person or the other. Generally, the other ego will take that bait; rear its pain body also to defend itself. Instead of a loving relationship, we now have a fighting, hateful and cruel relationship.
If you watch it in action, the ego actually becomes hatred. Observe the face of your partner. Isn't true that they look like hate? Sometime, while you are fighting, look at your own face in a mirror. You will surely notice that hate has taken over the body.
Please listen. The ego is incapable of being free of the love/hate cycling. So we do not need to try to perfect the dreaming "I" so that it is unconditionally loving. We do not need to make a false self a better false self. We do not need to feel guilty about the cycling. It is a given as long as you are mis-identified with the mental word "I" and its time.
The only resolution is timelessness. Free of time, we are free of cycling. Timelessness is being AWARE of the present moment and also realizing that you are the Pure Awareness. That Pure Awareness is timeless and eternal. It is the formless NOW within which your body and world of form are appearing. You are the formless NOW and not the body appearance.
The nature of the true Self is unconditional love. You ARE that unconditional love. It is not something that the ego can attain. The dreaming "I" is a word, remember? Is a word capable of unconditional love?
You already are this unconditional love. It is ever present just beneath (or we could say beyond) the dreaming "I," its time, its concepts and all of its problematic, compulsive and psychological thinking.
Unconditional love is formless and "arises" within the body from the divine dimension within you. Rather, it IS you.
When we realize Pure Awareness (Self-realization), we also realize that we are the unconditional love that never, ever wavers. That realization is then also the transformation of the world. How different would "your" life be and how different would the world be, if humanity was living as unconditional love?
Only the Self is LOVE. It is everywhere "you" are. Are you noticing this?
In attention to being, you stand free of time. In attendance, being (or we could say presence) will seem to grow stronger. This is not ultimately true. Beingness is already all powerful and omnipotent. It is just that while we are consciously being, the mind is still and thinking no longer obscures the Pure Beingness.
Just try it for one day and see. Can you consciously BE during all that is being done? This is beautiful movement meditation. You will notice how vibrantly alive you feel or eventually conscious being is just normal and effortlessly so.
In relationship with your mate, it takes "two" to fight. Do not try to change them. Just remain true to who you are. We then can offer true compassion. It is simple to see that they have only been taken over by time. Does it make sense to fight time when time is a delusion. Instead, we are asked to remain open and free, while the pain body loses its pseudo power.
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Wednesday, April 30, 2008
Duality, Separation, Non-duality by Katie Davis, Author, "Awake Joy"
Duality, Separation, Non-duality
A drop of water does not separate to be a part of the ocean, but rather dissolves its partiality. Until it surrenders, it is relatively powerless in comparison to the sea. The separate self is the time-based mind's attempt to separate and it will prove to be futile. Only separation is unattainable. Self-realization is an ease, since it is already complete.
Desire inherently contains its opposite, which is fear. Dual in nature, they depend upon one another. So while we are creating our personal desire, we are also creating poverty, greed, sexual obsession, power over others in the herd, and every form of lack. In other words, when we desire, we are actually saying that we are lacking. Consequently, both seem to be created. That is the way of the dual mind and it points to madness, but at least "I have what I want." Do you? "Probably not, but I will in the future."
If you are acquiring in order to be happier at a future time, ever-present joy will elude you. It is not a future endeavor. It is here now, uncaused and free of every-thing. The dual mind will prove to be ravenous for its desires, as it runs from its fears. Its bottom line will always be "more!" When it finally discovers that its treasures only provide a fleeting happiness, it discovers the root of all its longing, which is the realization of the Heart.
Posted by Katie Davis at 2:51 PM
Labels: dual, duality, enlightenment, Heart realization, mind-made self, non-duality, separate self, separation
2 comments:
Jeet said...
You say self-realization is an ease- that the self is, in some way, a higher state to exist in than the dualistic state that most humans exist in. Is that not creating just another (larger) drop in the ocean? In a non-dualistic sense, the sage both is and is not- there is an absence of being and an absence of non-being. You say that the dual mind is not the way to happiness. In that case, is the non-dual mind the way to happiness? Non-duality assumes the Self to be above happy and not happy- since there is no other. So my question is, since any talk about non-duality is creating this drop in the ocean- looking at a grain of sand instead of the beach, then is not all non-duality philosophy a contradiction in itself? Since it creates what it hopes to destroy, in a metaphorical sense.
April 26, 2008 6:08 PM
Katie Davis said...
Hello Jeet ~Thank you for your comment and question regarding Self-realization.
Nonduality is not a state that comes and goes. It is the Essence within which duality appears. Using the analogy that you have referenced (the larger drop in the ocean), Nonduality is the ocean itself. Within this ocean of Totality, duality appears and the mind-made self seems to appear. Duality cannot embrace Non-duality, since duality exists within the limited and impermanent. However as Totality, Non-duality has no conflict or opposition against that which is nondual. By non-dual, I am referring to the opposites such as pleasure and pain, good and bad, happy sad, you and me. Since duality is Totality, it embraces all that is. It is the formlessness within which all form appears. It is an ease, since it is already complete, that is, it is already total.
To realize this, we notice all that is coming and going ... the impermanent and then it is surrendered as not permanent. Once all of the false ideas of the mind/intellect are surrender, what remains is who you are ... the Essence, which is the Totality.
The 'sage' as a concept, as someone separate from who 'you' are is a false concept. The sage is none other than who you really are right now ... the entire Field of Totality.The non-dual fully integrated Self (Totality/Essence) is joy. You are joy. When the dual mind realizes itself as this Essence, it is humbled in devotional silence.
Joy is not an attribute of the Self. The Self has no attributes, yet its nature is pure joy or one could say bliss. It is one homogenous Field of Pure Awareness that is Awake or conscious. The dual mind is incapable of realizing joy since it is arising from a deeper Totality, let's call it a deeper dimension, exclusive of none.
The ego is searching in objectivity (within people, places and things) to find happiness. It may discover a fleeting, relative happiness; meaning a happiness that will inevitably cycle to unhappiness which will once again cycle to happiness. The object that was attained did not cause the moment of happiness. In an instant of attainment, we were free of desire and stopped all searching and wanting. In this stopping, we slip into timelessness or our true nature, that is joy. One could say that when happiness and unhappiness merge, we discover that which is transcendent ... joy. This joy is ever-present, caused by nothing and in need of nothing. It is our natural state. It is realized by being still and noticing what really exists here and now. We become more conscious of what actually is.
Non-duality is not a concept or philosophy. It is who you really are here and now. A philosopy can be learned, disputed, practiced, etc. True Self is virtually free of every concept and every philosopy and yet excludes none. It is the pure awareness within which they are appearing.I might also point to the fact that Non-duality cannot be understood by the dual mind. We can never 'know' it in any objective sense whatsoever. We can only be the Self. Once you make the Self into an object, you are speaking as an object and that is separation.The only alternative is to stop all attempts to mentally understand and conceptualize. Even this happens automatically by itself, once the mind gives up.
The Self is not a destroyer. In reality, it alone is. Everything you see and everything you cannot see is only the Essence. It is the unconditional Love that you are that accepts all as it is. As nonduality, it is the virtual end of all suffering, since it is timeless, which does not allow the opposites to take flight. In other words, time cannot embrace timelessness, but timelessness has no problem whatsoever with the appearance of time.
I recognize a certain maturity and depth in your inquiry. I recommend first things first ... discover who you really are. For this realization, we stop, rest in "AM" and be still, while we curiosly become aware of what is present within us.
Katie Davis Website, www.katiedavis.org
A drop of water does not separate to be a part of the ocean, but rather dissolves its partiality. Until it surrenders, it is relatively powerless in comparison to the sea. The separate self is the time-based mind's attempt to separate and it will prove to be futile. Only separation is unattainable. Self-realization is an ease, since it is already complete.
Desire inherently contains its opposite, which is fear. Dual in nature, they depend upon one another. So while we are creating our personal desire, we are also creating poverty, greed, sexual obsession, power over others in the herd, and every form of lack. In other words, when we desire, we are actually saying that we are lacking. Consequently, both seem to be created. That is the way of the dual mind and it points to madness, but at least "I have what I want." Do you? "Probably not, but I will in the future."
If you are acquiring in order to be happier at a future time, ever-present joy will elude you. It is not a future endeavor. It is here now, uncaused and free of every-thing. The dual mind will prove to be ravenous for its desires, as it runs from its fears. Its bottom line will always be "more!" When it finally discovers that its treasures only provide a fleeting happiness, it discovers the root of all its longing, which is the realization of the Heart.
Posted by Katie Davis at 2:51 PM
Labels: dual, duality, enlightenment, Heart realization, mind-made self, non-duality, separate self, separation
2 comments:
Jeet said...
You say self-realization is an ease- that the self is, in some way, a higher state to exist in than the dualistic state that most humans exist in. Is that not creating just another (larger) drop in the ocean? In a non-dualistic sense, the sage both is and is not- there is an absence of being and an absence of non-being. You say that the dual mind is not the way to happiness. In that case, is the non-dual mind the way to happiness? Non-duality assumes the Self to be above happy and not happy- since there is no other. So my question is, since any talk about non-duality is creating this drop in the ocean- looking at a grain of sand instead of the beach, then is not all non-duality philosophy a contradiction in itself? Since it creates what it hopes to destroy, in a metaphorical sense.
April 26, 2008 6:08 PM
Katie Davis said...
Hello Jeet ~Thank you for your comment and question regarding Self-realization.
Nonduality is not a state that comes and goes. It is the Essence within which duality appears. Using the analogy that you have referenced (the larger drop in the ocean), Nonduality is the ocean itself. Within this ocean of Totality, duality appears and the mind-made self seems to appear. Duality cannot embrace Non-duality, since duality exists within the limited and impermanent. However as Totality, Non-duality has no conflict or opposition against that which is nondual. By non-dual, I am referring to the opposites such as pleasure and pain, good and bad, happy sad, you and me. Since duality is Totality, it embraces all that is. It is the formlessness within which all form appears. It is an ease, since it is already complete, that is, it is already total.
To realize this, we notice all that is coming and going ... the impermanent and then it is surrendered as not permanent. Once all of the false ideas of the mind/intellect are surrender, what remains is who you are ... the Essence, which is the Totality.
The 'sage' as a concept, as someone separate from who 'you' are is a false concept. The sage is none other than who you really are right now ... the entire Field of Totality.The non-dual fully integrated Self (Totality/Essence) is joy. You are joy. When the dual mind realizes itself as this Essence, it is humbled in devotional silence.
Joy is not an attribute of the Self. The Self has no attributes, yet its nature is pure joy or one could say bliss. It is one homogenous Field of Pure Awareness that is Awake or conscious. The dual mind is incapable of realizing joy since it is arising from a deeper Totality, let's call it a deeper dimension, exclusive of none.
The ego is searching in objectivity (within people, places and things) to find happiness. It may discover a fleeting, relative happiness; meaning a happiness that will inevitably cycle to unhappiness which will once again cycle to happiness. The object that was attained did not cause the moment of happiness. In an instant of attainment, we were free of desire and stopped all searching and wanting. In this stopping, we slip into timelessness or our true nature, that is joy. One could say that when happiness and unhappiness merge, we discover that which is transcendent ... joy. This joy is ever-present, caused by nothing and in need of nothing. It is our natural state. It is realized by being still and noticing what really exists here and now. We become more conscious of what actually is.
Non-duality is not a concept or philosophy. It is who you really are here and now. A philosopy can be learned, disputed, practiced, etc. True Self is virtually free of every concept and every philosopy and yet excludes none. It is the pure awareness within which they are appearing.I might also point to the fact that Non-duality cannot be understood by the dual mind. We can never 'know' it in any objective sense whatsoever. We can only be the Self. Once you make the Self into an object, you are speaking as an object and that is separation.The only alternative is to stop all attempts to mentally understand and conceptualize. Even this happens automatically by itself, once the mind gives up.
The Self is not a destroyer. In reality, it alone is. Everything you see and everything you cannot see is only the Essence. It is the unconditional Love that you are that accepts all as it is. As nonduality, it is the virtual end of all suffering, since it is timeless, which does not allow the opposites to take flight. In other words, time cannot embrace timelessness, but timelessness has no problem whatsoever with the appearance of time.
I recognize a certain maturity and depth in your inquiry. I recommend first things first ... discover who you really are. For this realization, we stop, rest in "AM" and be still, while we curiosly become aware of what is present within us.
Katie Davis Website, www.katiedavis.org
Sunday, October 28, 2007
Duality, Separation, Non-duality by Katie Davis
A drop of water does not separate to be a part of the ocean, but rather dissolves its partiality. Until it surrenders, it is relatively powerless in comparison to the sea. The separate self is the time-based mind's attempt to separate and it will prove to be futile. Only separation is unattainable. Self-realization is an ease, since it is already complete.
Desire inherently contains its opposite, which is fear. Dual in nature, they depend upon one another. So while we are creating our personal desire, we are also creating poverty, greed, sexual obsession, power over others in the herd, and every form of lack. In other words, when we desire, we are actually saying that we are lacking. Consequently, both seem to be created. That is the way of the dual mind and it points to madness, but at least "I have what I want." Do you? "Probably not, but I will in the future."
If you are acquiring in order to be happier at a future time, ever-present joy will elude you. It is not a future endeavor. It is here now, uncaused and free of every-thing. The dual mind will prove to be ravenous for its desires, as it runs from its fears. Its bottom line will always be "more!" When it finally discovers that its treasures only provide a fleeting happiness, it discovers the root of all its longing, which is the realization of the Heart.
Katie Davis Website: www.katiedavis.org
Katie Davis Website: www.katiedavis.org
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